Counseling for Couples

Your marriage and family relationships are your deepest and most profound treasures. Yet problems emerge in any loving relationship. Most of the time you take these problems in stride. Sometimes, however, a problem becomes more than you can handle.

Whether you feel you are in a crisis in your relationship, or are dealing with an entrenched problem that doesn’t seem to get better no matter what you do, getting counseling as a couple is an important and brave step. You can experience healing in your relationship.

Signs that your relationship may need help:

  • You feel disconnected from your best friend, even though you love each other, and you don’t understand what happened to that close relationship.

  • You sometimes bring out the worst, rather than the best, in each other, and, in those moments, don’t like who you’ve become.

  • You unofficially keep score of who did more and who’s to blame.

  • You feel misunderstood and unappreciated.

  • You keep hoping your partner will change.

  • You have that same argument over and over again.

  • You feel frustrated, stressed, angry, and hurt.

  • Your communication with each other (or lack thereof) can be unhealthy and hurtful.

  • You feel discouraged, and wonder if you can ever get back to the relationship you want.

How can couples counseling help you to create a caring, passionate relationship filled with trust and understanding?

Working together as a team, I will guide you to:

  • Identify negative patterns that are hindering the quality of your relationship.

  • Learn how to stop blaming each other so you can work through problems without power struggles.

  • Recognize the 'cause & effect' patterns in your relationship.

  • Find healthy ways to communicate and relate to each other, which will strengthen the quality of your partnership.

  • Reconnect to the love and passion of your earlier relationship.

Partners come into couples or marriage counseling with a variety of issues. Communication, sexual & intimacy concerns, fighting and anger problems, identity and role conflict, dependence vs. independence, jealousy, parenting, infidelity, money and finances are only some of the myriad issues that couples disagree about, or find it impossible to talk about.

 

In my office, couples can expect to work on their realtionship in a collaborative way with me. The point of couples counseling is to learn to do things differently, and I use a creative approach to help couples see the patterns that they are stuck in, and find new tools to move past the stuck faze quickly. Using a collaborative approach, where each partner takes responsibility for healing the relationship, my office becomes a safe haven, where problems can be discussed without judgment or retribution. I take an active role in helping couples learn new skills to relate to their partner in a way that feels good.